It's no mystery that sometimes bad luck just comes around and forces us through experiences that can leave us with gnawing guilt for a long time. And there are still other times when we simply can't get over something we've done wrong in the past. Ask yourself: If you could do it over again, would you do it differently now? Why make yourself suffer forever if you know you're more capable of dealing with the same situations now than you were then? As we get more experienced, we should be able to earn ourselves a second chance. But unfortunately, for so many of us this seems as far away as the past itself.
The reason for this is because guilt is an emotion like any other. It's a state of mind that can be brought on by triggers - such as an anniversary, a smell, or even a specific word or name. These triggers can be so common, however, that they threaten to move the guilt from a simple reactionary behavior to habitual behavior. With this phenomenon, the brain considers guilt to be the default setting. Many people have lived with guilt so long, they've essentially forgotten how to live life differently. It's time for that to change. It's time to get your life back so you can start enjoying yourself again.
No matter what the regrets are, you certainly don't deserve to suffer indefinitely. We all make mistakes, and we all grow and better ourselves as a result. Imagine for a moment now living your life without that gnawing guilt. Do you ever think about going back to the time before the event or events happened that made you feel guilt in the first place? If so, then there is a solution.
Regret may feel like a positive emotion, or a justified emotion, but we need only look at the emotions regret can lead to and we clearly see that it isn't the positive constructive emotion it sometimes is said to be. Regret brings about fear, anger, and jealousy. It kills happiness and destroys hope. It replaces everything good we have with more bad. And how can you lead a positive healthy life of helping others and yourself when you're overburdened by something you cannot control? Don't try to control your past. Control your future right now.